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>ooo, shiny
On the internet, it's called thread derailment. It does happen in face-to-face conversations as well, but I think personal interaction limits the degree to which one particiapant can deviate from the discussion at hand, whereas online interaction allows for immediate, less-than-tagenitally-related discussions to initiate in the midst of any other.
>series-blindness
People are dumb. You want efficiency and responsiveness? Make AI friends. Humans are seriously limited, and always will be. We can barely comprehend a group of more than four objects without counting them, we hear selectively, and we tend not to respond to things that make us, even subconciously, uncomfortable--no matter how absolutely required or obvious our response should be. Maybe your friend wanted you to choose the movie, but prioritized the schedule for their self-interests.
Just be glad you don't live in Japan.
Example:
I intend to ask: "What movie would you like to see and what time would you like to go?" Assume these conversations happen in japanese; it wouldn't be much use to you if i typed it all out in moonrunes.
For completion's sake, let's ask it just that way once:
Me: "What movie would you like to see and what time would you like to go?"
Jap: "eh? mov? have schedule."
Result: Failure, Jap has made up a fake appointment to get out of this uncomfortable conversation. don't take it personally, they are avoiding this conversation, not you--they probably don't remember that you have (inspecific) plans to see a movie together and think you intend to go right now even though you asked them what time they want to go. furthermore, two questions at once is a huge amount of pressure and without detailed advanced planning, your plans are likely to be considered optional or non-existing.
Let's try that again, and break it own for our logic inhibitted friend:
Me (one week in advance): "What movie should we watch?"
Jap: *some awful hollywood blockbuster with no plot, lots of special effects, and a lead actor or actress who was hot thirty years ago*
Me: "Great, what day and time should we go?"
Jap: "er, wanted go, have schedule week."
Result: Failure, Jap has again created (a week-long) fake appointment to avoid answering uncomfortable questions about time. Time is very important to Japanese people, and not to be discussed or inquired about lightly.
One more time, this time, with a little more prep work:
Me (two weeks in advance): Hey Jap, did you know *worthwhile film* is playing at *some theatre*?
Jap: Rly? Time?
Me: Seven o'clock, eight thirty, and ten on weekends.
Jap: Fri/10?
Me: Friday, this week--December 9th--or Friday, next week--December 12th?
Jap: Fri/12! have schedule Fri/9.
Me (two weeks later): Ready to go to the movie?
Jap: Yeah, watch *horrible hollywood blockbuster* at 9:30? at theatre, u late?
Result: Success? Jap arrived the standard half hour or more early, and has changed your movie plans to something tasteless and awful--but probably easier to break the language barrier (awful movies tend to be easier to translate for some reason and are always more popular in japan than their countries of origin). It is important that you make plans a minimum of two weeks in advance and avoid the possibility that Jap will feel even the slightest bit of hastiness in your planning (resulting in immediate failure). It is also essential that you be prepared for Jap to change anything unexpectedly (they will see it as a slight modification of the parameters of the original plan, no matter how drastic the change).