/rnb/ - Rage and Baww

Teenage Girl 21/09/06(Mon)04:27 No. 24077 ID: 8bf6d2

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I was debating whether to put this in /grim/ but my intuition is telling me here is better.

I have literally no friends. Am I the only one who can't hold up a conversation? I believe I know how to carry a conversation, but I don't retain social information that allows me to apply what I experience in every day life in conversation and be slightly interesting. It doesn't help that I do the same thing every day which doesn't allow me to have new experiences.
This also means I lack humour as well. I just can't think of the funny things to say.

I have only had one friend and that was in school. We worked together outside when we were young and we didn't say much. It goes without saying that the reason I didn't say much is because I didn't know what to say.

In a social context, such as going for dinner or hanging out at one's place, not saying anything would not work (supposedly). Ideally, I would be in the company of people and do something with them in a context that doesn't require conversation, but permitting anything to be said, such as colouring together, or playing video games. The activity would have to preoccupy their mind so as not to bring attention to me conversationally. Does there even exist a possibility to hang out in silence?

Am I out of luck? Is there any hope for me at this point? I'm 29 and would like to have someone in my life, whether a partner or friend. But with my handicap of not having anything to say, I fear nobody would want to be around me. Lonely.

Teenage Girl 21/09/08(Wed)14:33 No. 24083 ID: 9ae865

>>24077
You probably overestimate what amounts to "interesting".

You can literally just say "man, sure is hot today" and start a conversation about the weather with just about anybody.

This is what most people do; sometimes it diverges into a more interesting topic, often it doesn't.

Trying to think of funny things to say is again, a mistake. Only comedians really have to have funny things to say prepared beforehand. The rest of us mostly play off the conversation in situ, sometimes well and sometimes not. It's okay if you try a joke and it falls flat, most do.

Teenage Girl 21/09/11(Sat)02:19 No. 24086 ID: 59a6cc

There are plenty of people who want to say everything that is on their mind to anybody who is willing to listen. All you have to do is not be rude and listen closely enough so that you can repeat what the other person said back to them periodically and say "uh-huh" or "I see" every once in a while. It might even create an opportunity for you to think of something insightful to say. Just be really agreeable and regurgitate what you hear like a parrot. Dan from Game Grumps built a career spanning many years following these principles.

Teenage Girl 21/09/11(Sat)02:29 No. 24087 ID: 59a6cc

I should also mention, keep your interactions one-on-one because you will likely be shut out of the conversation altogether. Many people in my life refuse to interact with outside of a group setting so that they don't really have to talk to me.

Don't care about what you cannot control Teenage Girl 22/01/15(Sat)23:55 No. 24410 ID: 182caf

>Am I the only one who can't hold up a conversation? I believe I know how to carry a conversation, but I don't retain social information that allows me to apply what I experience in every day life in conversation and be slightly interesting
Then leave. Stop chasing things that life is granting to you with ease.

Your real issue is that you refuse to embrace loneliness with an open heart. Stop chasing people, refuse your cheaty dreams about them... for it is them who must come to you and not the opposite. Otherwise you'll stay unhappy and needy. Ignore the world, seek into yourself.

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