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Holy shit! A new /777/? Why, it's a Christmas miracle, kids! Found ## Admin ## 14/12/19(Fri)22:32 No. 1 [Reply] Stickied
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Clearly I'm a touch useless, and need some help to make myself a better person, someone whose more well rounded. Someone who can change /777/ more than twice a year, essentially.

Regardless, go nuts and do what you normally do! To suggest future /777/s use this thread: https://7chan.org/7ch/res/4700.html


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Useless 16/04/16(Sat)16:01 No. 1017

Hey /selfhelp/, when are you getting your own board?

Your parents are going to start charging you rent for the loft. Get your shit together and move out.




Useless 16/01/11(Mon)15:11 No. 909 [Reply]
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Okay, so I am 23 and I still can't get laid. I am not that bothered by the lack of sex itself, but I realize that becoming sexually active is important for my development as a human being. Therefore, I come to you in search of advice.

I think my main two problems are that I'm afraid of romantic/sexual interactions and of sex itself. How do I overcome these fears(preferably without having to turn to prostitutes)?

I was thinking of trying online dating. Is that a viable solution?


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Useless 16/04/28(Thu)20:37 No. 1022

>>1019
>You need to be very attractive and very socially skilled and outgoing to get anythng from online dating.
Then how the 'wolf have I been getting laid through plenty-of-fish!?


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Useless 16/04/29(Fri)01:42 No. 1023

>>1022
Probably because you put out a positive mood when you're with people. How you look is really important, but it's not everything. Or you might have low standards. I don't know - want to share some of your methods to help this anon out?

One thing I discovered in online dating is how to write a flattering information section. Instead of staying "looking for a good time", maybe consider sharing what that good time would be. Also, if you have the balls to say you're just looking for a hookup, that actually works pretty well. You might not have the best sex with a model, but it's a start.


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Useless 16/04/30(Sat)10:37 No. 1025

Society wants to fuck a female. If you can't get over what society wants you to do (you will never be happy) I recommend the services of a female for money.




me beatrix 16/04/28(Thu)09:15 No. 1021 [Reply]
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Useless 16/04/30(Sat)10:28 No. 1024
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Which Type of Exercise Is Best for the Brain?

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2016/02/17/which-type-of-exercise-is-best-for-the-brain/?_r=0

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VFzXs5tFjk




Useless 16/04/07(Thu)07:06 No. 1006 [Reply]
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Ex is back again. I'm trying to figure out the easiest way to fuck her, with out getting into a relationship. She probably has a boyfriend. But I know she's a cheating skank so, I'm sure she'd be inclined. I just need to figure out how to do it, with out having to listen to her dumb bitch problems.


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Useless 16/04/11(Mon)08:12 No. 1008

Fuck someone else.


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Useless 16/04/16(Sat)16:04 No. 1018

>>1006
>dumb bitch
You want the dumb bitch, you get the dumb bitch problems. She's your ex, you know it's a package deal.




Love her too much Useless 16/02/17(Wed)14:15 No. 978 [Reply]
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I have a problem. I love one specific girl. She has said she doesn't love me. I can't forget her though. First actual girl that actually talked to me first. I would help her cheat her test and we went out sort of for a while. We went to prom together. In middle school. She would always say bye to me after school. I have a drug problem. I think she loves me but just denies it. For the fact I have a drug problem. I would give up all drugs for her instead. But she doesn't even acknolodge me anymore. I'm very suicidal sometimes...


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Useless 16/02/18(Thu)22:18 No. 983
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>>979
Thanks brother. I am actually moving back with my mothers to give up the drugs. The problem is mainly I live where it's too easy to get. Hopefully my mothers house and her will help me out. I am also now excersising and focusing on my better sort of, looking for better jobs and finally have a car of my own after 21 years. The internet makes it hard not to try and contact her. Perhaps I should also work on that addiction haha.

I wish you good luck and love as well.


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Useless 16/03/31(Thu)06:35 No. 1002

Just tell her: 'I know how to work a body and give you a good fuck 8)'


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Useless 16/04/15(Fri)11:24 No. 1016

>>1002
Haha, yeah that didn't work when I tried it. It's just that I can control her in so many ways, but I think she is scared. I made her dump her other boyfriends and she would always come to me, which I hated because it was just like a cruel joke. I think she's evil. I am just going to leave her alone. If she realizes that I loved her for real, well then too bad. I'm leaving to another state. To get away from her and the drugs.




limitless hate zero 16/04/12(Tue)09:02 No. 1010 [Reply]
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Reading gets me closer to comprehending everything except for other people. I don't want to sound like I am smart, because I am fucking stupid in a lot of things, but I am currently at some point of my studies that everything that they throw at me is something I have already read about.NOBODY CAN TEACH ME BATTER THAN MYSELF. Even the harder subjects like electronics and progrmming. Everything i hear in school is fucking useless, the etics teacber is an immoral hypocryte bitch, the physics teacher an bonehead and motor control teacher is a motherfucking bald pedophile. And i know all those things, but i needto loose time in school still, and keep getting into trouble with other people. Sometimes i feel like i need a counter-asylum where normal clever people stay away from society.


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zero 16/04/13(Wed)02:00 No. 1013

in fact that what i mean by stupid, it took me like 14 years and like 40 novels for being able to talk in spanish without mispelling


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Useless 16/04/13(Wed)04:19 No. 1014

Read some books about effective communication strategies and practice.

I can't believe you consider reading to be an achievement. Welcome to literacy! It's the hip place to be.


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zero 16/04/13(Wed)04:36 No. 1015

>>1014
I don't consider it to be an achievement, but where i live is like the rarest thing to do. The second one is thinking. I have readed books about efective comunication, what i mean is that i am missing touch,tolerance and empathy with my friends and silblings. I don't feel anymore...

by the way thanks for caring anon.




Anxiety and self defeating thoughts Useless 16/04/02(Sat)02:26 No. 1003 [Reply]
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I don't know why but every day I have thoughts which really make me feel anxious and irritated. Whenever I want to try something new, these thoughts are always popping up in my head saying that whatever it is I am trying to do I'm probably not cut out for. I find it very hard to take it easy, despite being an even-tempered person. Every time I have these thoughts my face turns red and sometimes my skin might get a little itchy. Flushed, basically. I don't know if this is considered anxiety, though. In the past I was also stressed out a lot, but life has gotten a little better and now that doesn't happen as often. Please help me feel normal and relaxed again, I've been living like this for almost a year now and it's unbearable.


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Useless 16/04/02(Sat)06:32 No. 1004

Anything that you've done, have thought about doing, and will do, is entirely meaningless in the grand scale of things. The world will go on just as it has after you've passed, until it comes to an end as well. And then the universe will continue as if nothing happened, because on a universal scale the affairs of Earth are virtually non-existant. And eventually the universe will come to its own end as well. This is certain, and yes, it does imply that nihilism is the one true philosophy, as it is the only one proven by science. But that's a different discussion.

What you need to realize is how foolish and futile it is to stress yourself over anything whatsoever. Because nothing really matters, there really is no negative outcome to any actions you might do. If your anxiety is coming from you thinking that you might fuck up and that it might somehow affect your life, then getting rid of it is easy. Remember that even if you do try something new and fuck up, it doesn't matter. Nothing does. So your stress has no rational source, and therefore no reason to exist.


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Useless 16/04/10(Sun)11:19 No. 1007

>1004
I present to you; Pascals Wager.


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Useless 16/04/11(Mon)10:17 No. 1009

>>1004
Volcanoes and plate tectonics change the Earth forever because they shape their environment. The planet won't continue to be the same thing it always has been when new islands and continents are formed. So the actions have meaning when the environment is changed.

However, since the environment will change when the Sun eventually explodes changes in environment are not significant on a long term scale since the Earth's destiny, like humans, is ultimately death.

In the long term, actions are meaningless since everything on Earth will be destroyed and currently that is the scope of human influence. In the short-term the actions that have the most impact have the most meaning.

This doesn't help OP who needs to grow a pair and do things despite the voices in his head.




How to talk with a shrink Useless 16/01/15(Fri)18:20 No. 920 [Reply]
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When I was 19, I was achubby incel, but was getting into shape and overcoming my anger and depression, and learning to accept and love myself and become happy. Then I met her.

Still had fun, but once we started getting serious, had kids, and started a life together, things in my head and body got worse. I'm now almost the fat weight I was in high school, and got very strict and a little mean towards the kids. I'm no longer outgoing, have no friends, am usually very anxious/angry/depressed, and plan to buy a revolver with tax returns and blow my brains out once my gf finishes school and gets a job so she will be able to support our 6 kids (2 of which are mine).

Apparently all the kids still love me but miss how I was when I was happy when we first met, but no matter what, no matter how hard I try, I can't get back to that state.

I've been thinking about therapy, but how the fuck do I start the conversation with the shrink? "Hey doc, I'm an anxiety-ridden mess whose extremely depressed and plan on blowing my brains out. What do you recommend?"

I need some help with talking to a shrink. I'm very introverted and don't like to talk about my feelings. Any advice, or guidance?


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Useless 16/01/20(Wed)02:30 No. 938

I don't know if you play sports or an instrument, but therapy is kind of like that. When you first pick it up it feels awkward and ungainly, and your bad at it. With time it feels more comfortable and you're even proud of what you can do.

Expressing yourself and mitigating unhealthy behavior is a skill set, and one which takes time, diligence and practice. The goal of a therapist is to teach you how to practice that skill set properly.

You don't need to know how to start the conversation. That's the therapist's job, and hopefully, they'll know how to guide you to an effective way of conversing healthily.


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Useless 16/02/15(Mon)07:35 No. 976

>>920

Dude, the whole job of a psychologist is to get you to talk. If you find that you cant open up to one, get another one asap. Eventually you will find one that is competent and works for you.


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Useless 16/04/03(Sun)07:34 No. 1005

I was forced to see a shrink for four years. I'm the kind of person that couldn't get over the fact that she was paid (public money) to agree with me and make me happy, and that kind of invalidated a lot of what she said. However, I came to the conclusion that her opinions as a trained psycho-whatever were medically relevant to me, and that, and this was the kicker, that I wasn't really going to her to talk to her. She was just a method of self-reflection. By talking to her, about myself, I came to truths about myself that I wouldn't have stumbled onto while in my usual cycle of self-hatred and debauchery. I needed both an outside perspective (even a heavily biased one) and a sound

Anyway, despite still being depressed,

yeah not gonna finish editing. go. feel better. Don't shoot yourself. I never thought I was going to lose weight either, and then I discovered it was easier to not eat than to eat with the right combination of drugs. Problem solved.




Useless 16/02/24(Wed)11:04 No. 988 [Reply]
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Are there any career options after volunteering as a Hindu (prison) chaplain?


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Useless 16/02/26(Fri)15:48 No. 990

Volunteer chaplain -> Paid chaplain
Check internal vacancies


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Useless 16/03/05(Sat)09:08 No. 994

airport chaplain


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Useless 16/03/31(Thu)05:45 No. 1001

The duties of a chaplain at my uni is: support for faith, advocacy and pastoral care. That doesn't really translate to anything else, excepts counselling type jobs and there's already a huge oversupply of psychology trained people.




i need a small amout of money dumbfuck 16/02/28(Sun)08:12 No. 991 [Reply]
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i need a small amount of money like 400 bucks. i dont have a job because im in college i cant juggle a job and college. so i need to find a way to get money online and fairly fast. anyone know of any ideas? btw as most of you guessed i dont have any special talents like art or anything to sell


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Useless 16/03/11(Fri)02:18 No. 995

>>992
He also has a mouth.


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Useless 16/03/22(Tue)07:41 No. 996

>>992
>>995

I'm a hetero dude. I joined a brothel to escort for them. Literally got zero customers.

There's too many gay guys happy to fuck other gay guys - and the olden ugly one's go to bathhouses and get what they want there for next to nothing.

Instead, playing the long game probably works. Make friends then lovers with rich inner city gays, get gay married then bail.


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Useless 16/03/26(Sat)03:45 No. 999

>>996
Work for older women




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