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Holy shit! A new /777/? Why, it's a Christmas miracle, kids! Found ## Admin ## 14/12/19(Fri)22:32 No. 1 [Reply] Stickied
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Clearly I'm a touch useless, and need some help to make myself a better person, someone whose more well rounded. Someone who can change /777/ more than twice a year, essentially.

Regardless, go nuts and do what you normally do! To suggest future /777/s use this thread: https://7chan.org/7ch/res/4700.html


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Useless 15/03/04(Wed)21:27 No. 288
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>>260
I have more than enough hard on for everyone




Useless 15/03/30(Mon)20:59 No. 342 [Reply]
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How do you deal with social rejection, humiliation, bullying, etc?


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王小碧 15/03/31(Tue)01:11 No. 343

>>342
I used to withdraw into my shell, my own corner of the world... and write - write whatever came into my mind... I burned most of the stuff I wrote - what remained survived only because it got burried somewhere amongst my stuff. And I recently reread one of the letters to myself I wrote in late 2012 - it made me cry, as it hit me how fucked up the facade I was putting up to hide my true colours was... how it fucked me up... I used to give myself only a few months to decide whether am I gonna end everything... but I never acted on it.
Now, I moved halfway across my country to study at university and I met several wonderful people there who really helped me - they gave me strength to destroy the facade and to be myself.
Don't give up. Maybe you are angry at the society. If that is the case, use the rage -the energy it fills you with - for positive things. Take up running or cycling... something that relaxes you. It does magic for your inner peace, trust me.


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Useless 15/04/01(Wed)01:41 No. 344

I deal with the last two by reminding myself that people who treat others that way are scum who aren't worth my time and are probably only lashing out because of how unhappy they are on the inside.

The first one is harder, I try to always be my true self, and think "If they don't want anything to do with me, I don't want anything to do with them". This works usually, but can be really hard when someone you look up to or admire and would like to be friends with treats you that way.

But in my current situation in life I'm always meeting new people all the time, so I have the luxury of mentally writing people off. It's much harder to deal with when you're just stuck with the same shitty people day after day for years. Like high school, for example.




MaybeUsefull 14/12/24(Wed)23:20 No. 38 [Reply]
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i need help, ever sice i can remember i had this sorta "existencional" crisis, and i dont know how to escape it, how do i find purpose in life, how do you make it seems like this life matters? how do you keep going? also merry christmas to all the loners


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Useless 15/03/22(Sun)20:05 No. 332

ive found that the most fulfilling thing i can do in my life is try to make other people happy. i know this sounds like cliche, self-righteous up-my-own-assery but it's true. being there for people when they need a friend, giving some cash to a homeless person, giving someone a nice compliment when they are feeling shitty about themselves, even just holding a door open for someone - even the tiniest little acts of kindness can make someone's entire day, and for some reason it makes me feel better as well. not in a "i'm such a great person" way or anything, just in a general sort of way.


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Useless 15/03/26(Thu)01:04 No. 335
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>>332 It's scientifically proven that altruistic acts make the people who carry out the acts feel better: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l7AWnfFRc7g


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MaybeUsefull 15/03/27(Fri)17:30 No. 340

Sorry, been some time since i looked at this board. Well my life got sorta kinda better, well i mean, ive learned to live with myself and so, now to find the people to share this life with...




Useless 15/02/02(Mon)04:52 No. 223 [Reply]
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The symptoms of my mental illness are a mile long, not to mention my physical ailments. I am beginning to recluse completely and am running out of money too. I'm starting to get desperate and don't know what the fuck to do.


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Useless 15/03/26(Thu)04:03 No. 337

>>336
Oh, simple. Be controlled choas.


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Useless 15/03/26(Thu)04:26 No. 338

>>337
*chaos.

Airwolf you, I'm drunk.


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Useless 15/03/27(Fri)07:58 No. 339
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The DSM, etc defines mental illness as something that CAUSES A PROBLEM FOR YOU.

You have a problem making it into work, have a problem dealing with people? Then you are advised to get help from a professional. If you can still be cool then you are not unwell.

The majority of 7channel mods are "unwell". Yet they run one of the coolest places you can be. The mind it seems is not without a sense of humor.




Useless 14/12/23(Tue)22:45 No. 26 [Reply]
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My linux mint distro has been unable to show new updates for months now.

I tried the commands below but they didn't work either.

What to do?

sudo apt-get update
sudo apt-get upgrade
sudo apt-get dist-upgrade


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Useless 15/03/22(Sun)06:59 No. 329

Same problem here, seems like a total loss of support. I'm gonna update to the newer version eventually.


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Useless 15/03/22(Sun)19:57 No. 331

>>319

i hate distro wars, and they seem to only happen amongst people who don't really understand what linux actually is. distros are like flavors of cup o' noodles - it's all essentially the same shit.


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Useless 15/03/25(Wed)06:16 No. 334

The best contribution Arch gives to linux is its documentation pages. Don't bother installing Arch, use something easier, but most everything on their wiki works for other distros and it usually beats their own docs.




Frozen Elsa 15/03/22(Sun)02:22 No. 328 [Reply]
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Some days are tough, some days are easy. Some days you get back from the frozen beach and throw away the suicide note.

It's not a win. It's not a loss. It's kinda like every other day. Except this time you turned off your phone and blew off all responsibilities for a few hours, not sure if you'd return. Of course I'll return. I always do. I'm still here... I'm still here...


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well A,D. 15/03/22(Sun)09:08 No. 330

hey I did this twenty some years ago but no cells then , carry on , no sense to repeat lifes got good stuff too




Useless 15/03/02(Mon)07:58 No. 274 [Reply]
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I'm not sure if this is the correct place to post something like this. Basically I'm looking for something akin to 4chan's /adv/. My post isn't about finding a girlfriend so no one has any interest in helping me there.

I'll try and keep this short and sweet. I'm very unsatisfied with where I'm living and what I'm doing right now. I'm finishing up my third year working towards a computer science degree. At one point I was convinced I would be happy doing this, but nowadays I'm not feeling motivated, both in and out of class. A lot of friends I've made in this program are constantly coding, working on projects outside of their classes as well, and I figure if I don't have that sort of drive then this might not be for me. In classes, I'm keeping up, doing what it takes to make the grade, but I'm not soaking up all I could be like someone who actually enjoys what they're studying. What sucks is I'm not sure what I'd like to do, either.

What I'd like to do is move closer to my girlfriend; she lives about 2 hours away in an area I feel like I'd be happier in. I want life experience in general, like living on my own and managing my own finances. I've lived with my parents the last 20 years and I've held jobs and managed my money internally, but I've always had their support for living necessities. Problem is, I know it's extremely hard to find work, especially well-paying work, if you're not a graduate or skilled in some trade. I only have 3 years of college education and retail experience to put on my resume. I'm extremely doubtful I'll be able to find suitable work with that.

So I guess my question is this: should I stay or should I go? If I stay, how do I stay motivated to continue my school work, or how can I identify my passion so I can work on commercializing it? If I go, how will I find work that pays well enough to allow me to stay afloat? What kind of trade would allow me to start working relatively soon and make comfortable paychecks if all I'm interested in is making money?


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Useless 15/03/21(Sat)17:09 No. 326

Can't think of advice besides 'suck it up'. You know what you have to do, don't throw away 3 years of work. Even if it's not what you want to do in future it can set you up for your next step and your independence.
Don't focus on the work, focus on the goal you're gonna achieve by completing it to motivate you. Instead of fucking yourself now to move away wait til you graduate and be in an excellent position to do so.

Source: student nurse in a similar situation, but because I work with people there's always some interesting chatter to bide my time. Feeling bored on a shift? Talk to a patient; they're usually cool and have new insights to share.




Anon is hungry Useless 15/03/03(Tue)01:47 No. 277 [Reply]
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I'm depressed and because of it I never want to eat anything and I'll just sit there starving for hours. My weight went from 160 - 140 in one weekend from not eating or drinking at all.

How do I eat more and improve my appetite?


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Useless 15/03/03(Tue)17:00 No. 279

Plan your meals and choose very caloric meals. Get your calories from fat, not from carbohydrates. Nuts are great, for example.


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Useless 15/03/04(Wed)05:58 No. 282
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you get to learn to eat despite your thoughts and feelings. try externalizing your resistance - talk, negotiate with your resistance. i'm replying only because i've had the same problem.


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Useless 15/03/21(Sat)17:02 No. 325

Sounds like you're so apathetic you're about ready to keel over. As an improvement on your current state keep a jar of peanut butter handy to eat raw. Has high calories from fat and protein and should prompt drinking cus it sticks to the roof of your mouth. Awesome.




howdointolife 15/03/08(Sun)18:10 No. 299 [Reply]
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Hey guys.

If this thread has already been made elsewhere I apologize. Picture unrelated btw.

I'm just gonna type a bunch of shit so this will probably be really meandering.

I'm 20 years old and I'm turning 21 in about a month. All I ever want to do is lay around watching Netflix and jerking off. I have many goals and things I want to do and I hate myself for being too lazy to do them. I'm a fatass (of course) and I want to do something about that. I used to be in decent shape when I played football in highschool, but that was almost 5 years ago and I'm steadily approaching 300 lbs now. I want to learn how to program but every time I start up a course on Khan Academy I lose interest within an hour. I bought a keyboard hoping to learn how to play it, and stuck with it for a few weeks but it's been siting in the corner of my room for months. I like writing and I have an interest in film making so I'm always thinking of funny/interesting scenes that I swear I'm gonna tie together into some kind of project but that's never gotten anywhere. I was in college for a while but I took this last semester off because I had no clue what I wanted to do and I figured I'd use this time to "find myself" or something, but all I've done is got a shitty job which I quit a month later. I'm starting a new, but still shitty, job tomorrow that I hope I'm at least a little more suited for.

My living situation is shit. My mom kicked me out about a year ago and I've been living with my girlfriend and her parents since then. Her parents are gross as shit though and the house is in a state of filth. Like, the living room has patches of inch thick dog shit that's been there for as long as I've been here. The bathroom is horrible and hasn't been cleaned in idk how long. There's roaches EVERYWHERE to the extent of if you were to lay out a bunch of those sticky roach paper things they would be all absolutely filled with bugs the next morning. We did this everynight for about two weeks with seemingly no drop in roach numbers. Her dad has a sbitty job at a recycling plant and the mom draws in disability every month, but it's bit enough and we're pretty broke. Her dad is cool enough, I don't talk to him much but her mom is insufferable. We think she may have mental issues. She wakes up and will literally sit there all fucking day watching Fox News and yelling about how muslims are going to kill us all. She reads Harry Potter fanfiction and plays facebook games on a shitty 10+ year old desktop that crashes every few hours, and when it does she goes in a rage about how God has ruined her life and how she "won't rest until she kills god". This is an everyday occurrence.

Me and my girlfriend have a good relationship, mostly. But she enables my shitty behavior and she's lost control of her Message too long. Click here to view the full text.


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Useless 15/03/17(Tue)16:38 No. 317
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>>299

Your situation sounds pretty fucking miserable so unlike the other 2 posts I'm gonna give you some advice.

First off, forget your big dreams for the moment. If you love your girlfriend, include her in this plan. If you don't, then abandon her. Get the fuck out of that roach infested hell hole. There's no way you can feel better about yourself or improve your situation until you can set yourself up in a slightly better situation with less stress.

Find a job, any job will fucking do. Keep that job, build up your work experience and cred. I personally find work in non corporate kitchens to be rewarding and fulfilling. After you've locked yourself in, and learned your shit, get a second job part time. I know it sounds tough, but you gotta start saving money. Which brings me to my next point.

Hopefully after you've locked yourself in at your job, and if you chose the girlfriend route, she's got a dependable job too now, and you guys are on your own after saving up for a place for a couple months. If she's unable or unwilling to get a job, sorry pal, you need to let her go.

This is the part where you think long and hard about what you want to do, after you're living by yourself or with your gf outside of her shitty parents house. If you're living with your gf, again, don't let her affect your decisions of what you want to do with your life in any way. Not trying to sound like a misogynist but you're only 20 and at this point factoring her into your longterm plans will only make you her slave/ a bitch. During this time you need to be saving more cash. Once you find out what you truly want to do it's on to step 3.

Step three, back to school for you. Go part time, drop your second job and stick with your main, or if that's untenable, you might have to juggle part time college, a full time job, and a part time job. It's tough but possible. Just get used to fucking staying up alot. If you've followed step one and 2, you should have a decent little chunk to fall back on if shit gets hairy. This is the part that's crucial, once you've made your decision, it's fucking made and there's no going back for you. If you do, you've failed yourself. Stick it out to the best of your ability, never give up. It'll be hard but you can scrape out an associates degree or some shit and keep working your way up from there.

Optional; your mom or w/e will notice you're working hard, and you can build rapport with your own family.
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Useless 15/03/17(Tue)16:54 No. 318
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Same guy as above, a couple of side points.

First off, your plusses (rent free and car insurance) are only minor benefits. I can't stress enough that if you continue to live in such squallor you're just never gonna rise up. Also, even if you leave and don't have that insurance anymore, just don't fucking get a ticket, get a dui or get into a fucking wreck. It's stressful but until you can afford insurance you're in a YOLO position.

Secondly, forget about your physical image for awhile while you work on getting a job. Hate to break it to you but being financially independent is more important, you're gonna have to be a fat shit for awhile.

Third, if you can complete a degree at your university by all means go for it. If you get to step 3 hopefully you will have some money and you can always look into financial aid. If not, it's back to community college for you, which sucks but hey what's a few more grand? Not jack shit in the long run.

I'm not the brightest crayon, pretty much just some bro douchebag and that's all I've got for you man. You follow my above post though and it'll put you in a far more better position than what you're currently in.


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Useless 15/03/21(Sat)12:41 No. 324

so you're mooching off of your girlfriends parents and taking advantage of someone you don't seem to even love or find attractive because you want a free ride. you're upset because you're fat and your girlfriend is fat (and it's not for health reasons, that's bullshit, you're just shallow.) you should be more concerned about your glaring personality flaws. also you are a hypocrite for talking shit about her mom for being mentally ill when you clearly have your own issues
that you won't deal with. you seem like you have bipolar disorder or at least major depression, start seeing a therapist and trying different medications until you find one that works, and don't be in a relationship with someone you don't really love just because you don't want to be alone - that's called being an emotionally manipulative asshole. and if you hate living in filth so much, get off your ass and clean the fucking house.




Mental Health General floodles 15/03/03(Tue)17:22 No. 281 [Reply]
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Post your mental health woes, and I'll do my best to help.

I suffer from ADD and Anxiety, although its become increasingly under control thanks to CBT, self help and medication(Adderall and Buspar).

Currently, my issues are eating and sleeping. Adderall is the obvious cause, many nights are spent feeling unable to fall asleep, and so i lay and toss and turn and look around and put on my sleep mask and turn out every tiny bit of light i find until I just say fuck it and get out of bed and wait for the Sun to come up.

I'm hoping to get a sleep aid soon, like Ambien or Lunesta. Melatonin leaves me feeling really disoriented and extremely groggy upon waking, and Benadryl has lost its effectiveness.

As for eating, many days I just forget to eat until my stomach growls in anger about it. and even then my meals are very small, and i only end up having one a day. whenever I don't take my meds, I eat a metric ton of food.

These things combined definitely don't help me focus, or my anxiety. Its been getting progressively worse.

any speculation would be appreciated


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Useless 15/03/13(Fri)09:30 No. 312

Anxiety is one of the few mental conditions that can most benefit from looking at diet and supplements. For ex. you see a lot more vegetarians today but those diets are lower in zinc and higher in copper. This can really lead to problems. There's tons of digestive problems and imbalances that lead to anxiety, so no guarantees, but it's something to look at.

Source is someone who had very bad anxiety and social anxiety in the past. I have many problems but that one is almost gone today. A part of it gets re-enforced psychologically but the triggers was physiological. Getting enough magnesium and zinc and a host of other things.

Of course meds blow everything I just said out of the water in terms of both observable strength and side effects.




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