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Holy shit! A new /777/? Why, it's a Christmas miracle, kids! Found ## Admin ## 14/12/19(Fri)22:32 No. 1 [Reply] Stickied

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Clearly I'm a touch useless, and need some help to make myself a better person, someone whose more well rounded. Someone who can change /777/ more than twice a year, essentially.

Regardless, go nuts and do what you normally do! To suggest future /777/s use this thread: https://7chan.org/7ch/res/4700.html

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Useless 15/06/27(Sat)15:51 No. 550

This. Don't disappoint me mods.

Useless 15/02/02(Mon)04:52 No. 223 [Reply]

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The symptoms of my mental illness are a mile long, not to mention my physical ailments. I am beginning to recluse completely and am running out of money too. I'm starting to get desperate and don't know what the fuck to do.

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Useless 15/07/29(Wed)10:25 No. 629

okay so new update.

I just got back from making out and finger banging this 10 year older fat chick till she came, then we finished by having her jerk me off.

It was fun, got to play with her tits, but I feel a little empty. Maybe cause it was just empty sex I guess. But it was fun when I was doing it, haven't done anything like that in like 2 and a half years.

Big ego booster when she told me how good I was and how much I came.

I feel like im ready to approach and fuck 20 year olds now with that confidence. But im worried now if this chick is gonna get mad at me if I don't fuck her once in a while now. Not that I wont fuck around her once in a while, just not all the time and a lot of our interests aren't parallel I feel. And im also afraid of the case, if I ever meet a chick I want to date, if shes gona get mad at me if I wont fuck her once in a while. I dont want to make her feel too bad, but frankly shes just a friend, and I think thats all she ever will be.

Useless 15/07/29(Wed)18:42 No. 630

I'm feeling so empty now I want to call my ex and tell her to get back together with me.

Useless 15/07/30(Thu)02:36 No. 633

called her, was a bad idea. cutting all ties with her now for sure

Missing the point in life. Meloncholy 15/06/03(Wed)10:59 No. 482 [Reply]

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Realize now from reading others posts here that my problems are really petty and trivial in comparrison.

I'm in my early thirties. I've been very unsuccessful thus far in life. At present, I have no friends outside of the internet. Lost my job two weeks ago. Car is acting up. Still living with my parents. Never have had a girl friend. Feel like my life is just one big rut. Went to college years ago and fully paid for two semesters entirely with money i earned from my first job believing fully I could get some sort of grant to take care of the rest of the semesters, but for whatever reason I did not qualify for any, so two semesters of college and an emptied savings account later and the next nine years I worked full time in retail.

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Useless 15/07/08(Wed)23:07 No. 575

At this point it would be about picking something and sticking with it right?
I dont really have your age, but i know a whole lot about waating years of your life.

Is money important to you? Your lack of any real responsibility is truly you greatest asset. You could pick a point on the map and go. You have the time to bust ass on the bottom rung of an apprenticeship or something, and develop a genuine skill. Depending what you make know, you could be poorer for a while, but you seem to looking for actual fulfillment

kam 15/07/12(Sun)10:25 No. 582

Education won't solve your problem on it's own, but have you considered applying for school again? I'd be surprised if you didn't qualify for something through FAFSA: https://fafsa.ed.gov/

Also, introductory courses, work study, and university career centers are a great way to find out what you're interested in.

Useless 15/07/30(Thu)01:42 No. 632

Learn to fix your own car. It'll feel awesome, and give you something good to focus.

Also, girls love a man that can fix a car.

How do I make friends as a hikikomori Useless 15/07/25(Sat)13:31 No. 624 [Reply]

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Hikikomori with a disability here (SEID/CFS). I'm lonely what with no friends and not being able to leave the house most days because I'm so exhausted and nauseas etc.

How do I go about messaging old classmates, etc to find someone to hang out with? I mean there is no way I can not sound desperate, and even after ages of online dating nothing has worked. How do I make friends as a hikikomori? How do I convince someone to even come talk to me?

I live in a small town of 10,000 but with not many people my own age (22) around, although it's less than an hour away from San Francisco, there's a few channers around and I organized a meetup some months ago when I still felt well enough to drive...but I can't expect them to drive out to me, not very often at the very least. So I have to make a friend locally somehow.

How though.....pls help....

Useless 15/07/26(Sun)13:42 No. 625

I tried finding better people locally 7 years ago, unfortunately, I never had any luck. My life had already been a failure for a long time, but leaving life alone may not be the best option.

I couldn't take real life dating or meeting anyone in the real world in my country. What I've had to feel in the last 7 years and earlier, I had to go through so many years of misery because I could not understand better. Hence I'm 20, and yet I still cannot erase this painful burden, as it haunts me everyday in my life, but yet the temptation of death is a failure, as the "your life is worth living for" has been around. There is very few good people that are in my country that are worth believing in, and a lot have betrayed me, but I am not happy to be around them, because I never learned to understand better.

I learn Russian language and learn how to understand it, along with being able to use it, and because I have this knowledge in my hands (In my country as a kid), I have decided only to take my hands and leave away to international life as I can't leave the house due to the misery that I've been in.

Physically, I can only do bits of work, and my country destroys my life. Desperately, there has been five people I have despised the most out of all my entire life, and yet there is a promise of misery throughout my life, because my reputation and life was destroyed by them.

The only choice I had is to flee into asylum everywhere I had (Skype, I falsify my location where I am at, because of past people who have known me), I leave away from Facebook for good, as those who were after me are following me, and I have a bearing misery, and I refuse to allow it to grow, so I set up a account on European social media.

Being out of state from where you're at is far by different from what I'm doing now. I used to look for people in other states, but it got too much and I had to browse through European and Asian social media (Learn Chinese or some Russian, and maybe you may soon be able to look through the inside of other countries and meet other new people online. but one of the cons is this: Meeting them in the real world is harder, as if you are to go to Russia or China, you'll need a passport and other information required by their legislation. Respect their rules and laws as if it was US Law, and you could be good to go).

Finding old classmates isn't easy, I have only successfully found one in the past before I had to move on, and there isn't usually anyone for me to go out with nowadays, but on international social media per day, I spend 7 to 8 hours a day because I have gained more better people than I used to have, because I have believed they understand what I have went through, and I have sooner or later grown to make friends to get my reputation that I once lost back.

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Urgent: cucked my manjaro machine. Useless 15/07/19(Sun)07:33 No. 605 [Reply]

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In dire need of help. Tried asking /r/, but phone was being too slow.
Using manjaro Linux. Last night I did a long wipe of a flash drive. Later in the night, after that had been closed out, I tried to switch to lxdm. After running a command I do not recall, I rebooted to see it boot into lxdm so I could start using a wider variety of window managers, but alas, I got this. After as much fiddling as I could muster, I was left helpless. Stuck With 3g data, no live USB, a broken disk drive, no extra computer, and no wired internet, I came to this page as a last-ditch effort. Please help.

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Useless 15/07/19(Sun)13:26 No. 607

I have two fresh installs of Arch to attempt today.

Best of luck to you!

Useless 15/07/21(Tue)20:40 No. 611

Do as the prompt says. Try typing "startx" without the quotes. Are you sure you named your devices correctly? Are you sure the flashdrive you have is formated?

Useless 15/07/24(Fri)09:15 No. 621

Things I assume you already did:
1. what it says to do: rootpw, look at the logs, try to fix, reboot or init with "systemctl default".
2. still had some problem.
3. started a thread in the appropriate subforum of your distribution's forum.
4. considered asking on irc.
5. haven't gotten a useful reply.

Do you have a manjaro livecd/usb?
Is it super-capable like the archlinux live media?
Get one of them, configure your BIOS/UEFI to boot it.

You can probably fix this by booting the live session and chrooting into your installation. From there I would remove lxdm, check your systemd services, exit and reboot.

Useless 15/05/03(Sun)05:58 No. 424 [Reply]

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Does anyone else develop habits incredibly easily?

At the moment, I have to quickly pull my shoulders back in a shrugging motion, several times a minute. I do it to temporarily alleviate the physical pain (caused by constantly doing it) and the mental urging I feel to do so.

I develop these habits so easily and I fucking hate it. I can even remember when I was about six or seven and getting called into the office because the teachers thought I had some kind of disease, as I would frequently jerk my head back and look up at the ceiling. Even today, people sometimes ask me what's wrong when I'll widen my eyes or shake my head over 30 times in an hour.

Sometimes, I'm lucky and only get stuck with merely tightening my fists or scratching my chin, but in times like these, I have a habit that causes me constant searing pain and muscle fatigue, even when I'm not doing the action.

Any tips to stop/control this, or will I just have to live with it?

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Useless 15/05/23(Sat)17:41 No. 467

Yes, and I found out I had ADHD (and some form of OCD). Being on medication helped. I'm on Wellbutrin which is actually an antidepressant, but also used for ADHD. It seems to work for me.

Useless 15/07/23(Thu)02:03 No. 613

Same for me, except it's that EVERY time I fart, I feel a giant urge to put my hand underneath my butthole, and then smell my fingers. If I can get away with doing it in public, I do.

Useless 15/07/23(Thu)02:12 No. 614

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Dude, running fingers was a thing for me too. Ten years ago. Then I started playing piano, and I have become incredibly good at piano.

Give it just three months practice, promise me son.

Misery Useless 15/07/16(Thu)05:04 No. 595 [Reply]

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Yo /777/, feeling very distressed day by day. not even I usually have time to spend out and eat out in the fucking dark, cause I am no better in feeling than anyone else.

Got no good friends in my country, cause a lot of people put a lot of envy me during most of my life, and chose not to forgive me, and even later, dating gets worse, betrayed by my ex, and now I live through my life disabled at home, and I just only have friends who live across the seas far fucking east as my friends, and yet they seem to be the only ones who do care to believe in me and understand me and my struggles from the past.

Talk about hatred, vengeance, and misery for sakes, life is hard.

PS, when I go around, I'm even concerned to show my face in public, as I can't make any good friends in my country unless I meet them online, so I eat out alone instead.

Useless 15/07/21(Tue)08:14 No. 610

I once new an adult in your condition, a 32-year-old mildly asperger'd manchild who could have done anything if he wasn't so bitter toward his own culture and hoplessly addicted to Japan.

>Talk about hatred, vengeance, and misery

Still an undergraduate, I was the last and only friend he had in University. We had some interests in common, but to be honest I used his position as VP of the International Exchange Society (on the surface, a student group to plan cultural events; actually an international meat-market--but for him just a comittee) to get closer to Japanese girls.

There were many times I could have invited him to hang out with Japanese exchange students socially (I began dating one) and he frequently asked, but I knew the kind of social death he stank of and always pretended to forget. I could also have helped him get a job in Japan, but I didn't want him tagging along on my great adventure, so I just left him behind. I think he knew I was an asshole, but no one else went out of their way to socialize with him and I was a better alternative than complete isolation.

Useless 15/07/22(Wed)00:30 No. 612


OP down here.

Fucking doctor wanted to prove a diagnosis of mental disorder, but I don't believe in that kind, doctors use this to stick labels on people who can't learn to understand better.

What got me into misery, was not being able to be understood and being forced to be more knowledgeful in the past years. I wanted to quit high school, as I was disabled, and I tried, but the teachers wanted to give me some stupid piece of paper (hence in 12th grade, I was 18, and after graduation, I was a adult).

Stuck living with parents at 20 two years later, interests had to change to get me away from the recent misery. I wished to be a network manager for a year at school, but they only gave me half a year, because I couldn't understand better and I was threatened to be thrown out of it if I didn't give in, after graduation, I never felt like wanting to be around those people who have destroyed my reputation and life.

School found me as a hateful person and miserable person, so they wanted to force me on drugs and give me a therapist once a week. Later on, they got her out of a job, but it sickens me how horrible my country is.

During the years, I felt nothing but misery, but when I met someone on deviantart from Europe, I was invited to new habits and to join on a European social media site, sadly, I had to know Russian or Ukrainian in order to sign up and understand it, so I decided to take learning into european language.

After spending a year or two on European social media, I've grown to understand I'm not the only person who has felt with this same fate, but yet to avoid the misery, I do continue to hide my fear and refuse to listen to those who came after me.
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Girlfriend's guyfriends Unknown 15/07/16(Thu)04:19 No. 594 [Reply]

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Can't stand my girlfriend having other guy friends, especially ones that she has dated.

Useless 15/07/16(Thu)05:25 No. 596

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That disturbs me to have known a ex-GF that does something like that, and that disgusts me.

Too bad I spend most of my time talking to people on European social media and never get to meet them in real life.

Useless 15/07/16(Thu)17:25 No. 599

Who do you trust the least: yourself to intimidate rivals, her to be loyal, them not to take advantage of her?

howdointolife 15/03/08(Sun)18:10 No. 299 [Reply]

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Hey guys.

If this thread has already been made elsewhere I apologize. Picture unrelated btw.

I'm just gonna type a bunch of shit so this will probably be really meandering.

I'm 20 years old and I'm turning 21 in about a month. All I ever want to do is lay around watching Netflix and jerking off. I have many goals and things I want to do and I hate myself for being too lazy to do them. I'm a fatass (of course) and I want to do something about that. I used to be in decent shape when I played football in highschool, but that was almost 5 years ago and I'm steadily approaching 300 lbs now. I want to learn how to program but every time I start up a course on Khan Academy I lose interest within an hour. I bought a keyboard hoping to learn how to play it, and stuck with it for a few weeks but it's been siting in the corner of my room for months. I like writing and I have an interest in film making so I'm always thinking of funny/interesting scenes that I swear I'm gonna tie together into some kind of project but that's never gotten anywhere. I was in college for a while but I took this last semester off because I had no clue what I wanted to do and I figured I'd use this time to "find myself" or something, but all I've done is got a shitty job which I quit a month later. I'm starting a new, but still shitty, job tomorrow that I hope I'm at least a little more suited for.

My living situation is shit. My mom kicked me out about a year ago and I've been living with my girlfriend and her parents since then. Her parents are gross as shit though and the house is in a state of filth. Like, the living room has patches of inch thick dog shit that's been there for as long as I've been here. The bathroom is horrible and hasn't been cleaned in idk how long. There's roaches EVERYWHERE to the extent of if you were to lay out a bunch of those sticky roach paper things they would be all absolutely filled with bugs the next morning. We did this everynight for about two weeks with seemingly no drop in roach numbers. Her dad has a sbitty job at a recycling plant and the mom draws in disability every month, but it's bit enough and we're pretty broke. Her dad is cool enough, I don't talk to him much but her mom is insufferable. We think she may have mental issues. She wakes up and will literally sit there all fucking day watching Fox News and yelling about how muslims are going to kill us all. She reads Harry Potter fanfiction and plays facebook games on a shitty 10+ year old desktop that crashes every few hours, and when it does she goes in a rage about how God has ruined her life and how she "won't rest until she kills god". This is an everyday occurrence.

Me and my girlfriend have a good relationship, mostly. But she enables my shitty behavior and she's lost control of her Message too long. Click here to view the full text.

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Useless 15/07/08(Wed)23:16 No. 576

I had a gf situation exactly like yours.
The love (mostly), the 3rd world house full of shit, the crazy mom, all that.

It will never change because you enabled it. This is how they live, it will not change for you.

These psychogical imbalances in her mom are all in your gf, and will develop over time.

Also have you considered how negatively that house must be affecting your health? It literally eats holes in your brain.

You have to be stronger than your base desires. We can only tell you our stories, we cannot make you care enough about yourself to change your life. Choose what you eat more carefully, masturbate less, save money for your own place.

kam 15/07/12(Sun)10:16 No. 581

Your situation sounds tough. It seems your relationship is your greatest asset, and I recommend starting there. Make a written contract with one another for a few things that each of you would like to accomplish. Then agree to hold each other accountable. It's weird, but it will help each of you realize how you're enabling the other one.

Useless 15/07/14(Tue)05:30 No. 588

Start by getting into a diet and losing some weight. Keto works quite well. Also, walk. This things will motivate you fine, as they are easy to do and create great positive changes in your life. Then start doing some things you always wanted, that "it's never to late" thing is pretty much truth (at our actually very early age). This year I started origami, guitar and martial arts, and am glad I did so.
This is actually amazing advice, the military is a very good option.

My Cycle of Failure Useless 15/06/14(Sun)06:49 No. 516 [Reply]

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My failure works in a 7 step cycle
1. Feel like shit, like I have nothing going on
2. Find something that makes me feel excited and interested in the world
3. Declare to myself that my life will forever be changed and that I will do this one thing consistantly (learning a language, an instrument, how to code, etc.)
4. Have a productive first day
5. Take a short break
6. Realize it's been several days or a week since I've done the thing at all
7. Go back to step 1

Surely I can't be the only one like this. Can I be?

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Useless 15/06/14(Sun)14:48 No. 520

I find it helps to just put in that tiny bit of effort every day.

Dont put yourself down for failures, as nobody is perfect. Dont stop putting in effort every day, but dont assign yourself overwhelming tasks. A small amount of effort adds up surprisingly fast. Most of all - make sure you make any changes FOR YOU and make sure there is a specific target. Youll work harder for the goal, and youll be able to see measurable progress towards that goal, making the daily effort a bit more rewarding.

Useless 15/06/27(Sat)22:18 No. 551

I didit.

> Start cycling, amass tools, make my own bicycle, participate in races and critical mass just to forget about it.
> start running, ran for two years. Finished my first marathon over a month ago. Haven't bothered running after reaching milestone;
> start making computers. Decide Linux/sysadmin is much better. After six years decide that programming is much better, despite knowing anything more than html/css/js.
> start reading on FOSS. Discover philosophy - roam through FOSS, marxist, anarchist, stoic, cynic works, can't speak shit because thoughts scatter all the time, lose momentum and nearly abandon
>start bodyweight fitness - ran, visited every outdoor gym, done some endurance and adventure races, forget about all of it after lakes freeze over and unable to swim
> start learning languages, fluent in three and able to understand many related languages - west/east Slavic, Romance languages, stop practising after returning to home clay

I can't be moderate in my interests, so I lose momentum all the time

kam 15/07/12(Sun)10:03 No. 580

Long-term, what's worked for me is lower expectations and beginning with small scheduled work sessions (e.g., 15 minutes a day) and extending if I feel like it (which I usually do, once I get started). This might be a good place to start: http://lifehacker.com/productivity-101-a-primer-to-the-pomodoro-technique-1598992730

However, if you're really having trouble try the opposite approach. Force yourself not to do anything productive for a week. Only do what you do during your breaks. You'll burn yourself out and see that working on what's important is ultimately more rewarding.

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